Friendship
What lessons about friendship can we learn from a preschool child?
I had opportunity lately to reflect on friendships when I moved from being in close proximity to some of my friends. I’ve seen friendships develop in preschool and continue into adulthood. I have friendships of my own that started in grade school. I’ve also known people who were “my friends” and are no longer.
Everything I know about friends I learned as a preschool teacher. Young children are my window into friendships simplified.
- Friendships are based on common interests. If you don’t like the same thing you are not friends.
- Conversely, opposites can attract and a balanced friendship can bloom.
- You can be friends one minute and enemies the next and friends again just like that. True friends let this happen and don’t judge why.
- Best friends eliminate drama, because they really want to keep playing together.
- Forever friends are the friends you don’t see for a while and when you do see each other again, you scream, hug and pick up where you left off without skipping a beat. I’ve seen this in young children who are separated for a week due to illness or family vacation. The reunions are joyous.
- Friends ask you to play even if you don’t ask them. Sometimes they just silently join you.
- Friends like your stuff, even if you don’t.
- They support you in doing something silly, adventurous or off beat but advise you not to do something dangerous.
- Friends never covet your stuff, they share yours and theirs.
- Good friends are happy for your happiness, even if they don’t understand why you are happy! They are happy because you are happy.
- Friends allow other people to be a part of your friendship.
- They give you non-monetary gifts whenever you are together.
Happy Valentine’s Day! Go spend time with a friend.